Mind Over Matter

Mind Over Matter is the ongoing writing project by Scott Houghton. It covers various topics from psychology and philosophy, to spirituality and self-actualisation. It’s about learning to use your mind to overcome problems, improve yourself and achieve the best life possible.

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10 Quick Mind Hacks

Here are 10 quick mind hacks, to help you get the most out of your life: 1) Goals – To increase the chances of achieving your goals, turn them into S.M.A.R.T goals, which stands for specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-based. (Bonus tip – Divide your goals into three categories: short term, mid term, and long […]

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Quote: "Cowardice asks the question 'is it safe?' Expediency asks the question 'is it politic?' Vanity asks the question 'is it popular?' But conscience asks the question 'is it right?'. And there comes a time when one must take a position that's neither safe, nor politic, nor popular; but he must take it because it is right." ~ Martin Luther King

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Have you experienced anger problems before, or do you just want to feel more peace in your life? If the answer to either of those questions is yes, then this post is for you.

I have outlined three methods below, which will allow you to better gain control over anger in you life, and help to achieve a more peaceful mind.

1) Nonviolent Communication

One of the best ways of dealing with anger is using Nonviolent Communication. This is where you focus on your needs and feelings, instead of making negative judgments about ourselves or others.

This method is based on several premises and assumptions, which are as follows:

- Anger can be a healthy and acceptable emotion if expressed and understood in a certain way
- Anger is seen as a secondary feeling as it signals an unidentified need. The problem is not being angry the problem is how we choose to handle our anger. One way of handling anger is to acknowledge the sensation of anger as an unidentified need and empathise with ourselves in order to reconnect.
- The four main components of Nonviolent Communication are: observations, feelings, needs and requests.
- There are four options for receiving negative messages:
1) Blame ourselves
2) Blame others
3) Sense our own feelings and needs. (Self empathy)
4) Sense others' feelings and needs. (Empathy)
- Expressing step 4 (empathy) followed by step 3 (honesty) is the most likely way to get your needs met.

Steps to expressing anger:

1) Stop. Breathe.
2) Identify our judgmental thoughts.
3) Connect with our feelings/needs.
4) Express our feelings and unmet needs.
5) Make a clear request of what we would like from the listener. Could be a reflection of what was heard.

To learn more about this process, check out these links:

www.compassionateinteractions.com/expressinganger.php
www.nvcworld.com/harnessing-the-power-of-anger

2) Sublimation

Sublimation is a mature defence mechanism, which involves transforming unwanted impulses into something more productive and less harmful. A good example would be to take up running, a sport, or martial arts as a way to express frustration or anger in a more healthy way.

Just about any form of physical activity, sport, or creative expression could be classed as sublimation, and it’s highly recommend that you have at least of of these outlets, particular if you frequently experience anger problems.

Here’s a few ideas: running, cycling, boxing, marital arts, football, basketball, rugby, weight lifting, painting, writing music, etc.

3) Breathing

In addition to change our thought patterns, behaviours and habits, we can also use simple breathing techniques to help us calm down whenever anger arises.

The 7/11 technique is where you breathe in for 7 seconds, then out for 11 seconds. It can be used for a variety of reasons such as dealing panic attacks, hyperventilation, and reducing anger.

If you are able to, close you eyes and visualise something peaceful, such as a natural landscape, the sound of rain, or even a happy memory, which can help to further reduce anger.

Conclusion

Hopefully, you will find at least one of these methods beneficial, but if you find still have anger problems and require some extra assistance, then consider visiting a trained professional who should be able to provide further help.

Support and advice - www.reddit.com/r/Anger/

More tips - www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434
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2 months ago

Mind Over Matter - Scott Houghton

Quote: "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.” ~ Gandalf
Explanation: The world is ruled by both karma and chaos, and since we cannot control everything, we should focus on the power that we do have, and use our time in the wisest manner possible.

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Have you ever struggled with failure? Do you wish you was more successful?

If so, then watch this short inspirational videos on famous ‘failures’ which will help put things into perspective.

It features a number of successful people who went through a period of struggle and failure before they eventually had their breakthrough moments.

The takeaway lesson is to not give up when you experience setbacks, but to remain persistent and self disciplined, and you may get just get your breakthrough moment too. 🙂

www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHmmA3SCXVo

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